Self-Improvement Goals (I Guess We Can Call Them Resolutions)

I hate the idea of “New Year’s Resolutions” because (at least in my experience) they all get abandoned the minute one of them gets fudged.  I’m tired of giving myself goals like “lose 30 lbs”, “go to the gym multiple times a week”, and “stop eating chocolate” and then abandoning them within two weeks of the new year.  Great start, Meg.

BUT.  I love the concept of a new year, a new slate, and a new chance to do all those things you said you’d do last year, or didn’t realize needed to be done.  SO, without further ado, here’s Megan’s Honest List of Goals for 2013 (in no particular order of importance, I think):

1. Straight A’s one semester?  Let’s make it two more!  I have two more semesters left of graduate school (if all continues to go to plan), and three more classes.  If I can get straight A’s in my remaining two semesters and on my Master’s thesis, I will be an extremely happy camper.  The Virgo in me is a total perfectionist who has, until December ’12, never achieved perfection — and having achieved it once, sees no reason to strive for less.

2. Graduate in December ’13.  Sounds like a no-brainer, until you realize that CCSU has a terrible history of holding students as long as they possibly can before graduating them.  I have only two friends who graduated with their B.A.’s in four years.  Yeah.  In any case, it looks like graduation in less than a year is going to happen…but I’m putting it on my goals list because I’m not taking any chances.

3. Get divorced — as amicably as possible.  Well, it’s not really a goal I wish I had to write down, but bowing to the inevitable seems like a healthy place to start off this year.  D and I are attempting to end our marriage as painlessly (there is no way) and as amicably (we still hope there’s a way) as possible, so if we get through the paperwork and court and emerge relatively unscathed and on as friendly of terms as possible, I will consider that a success.

4. Buy a better car.  This is slated to happen in February when my father buys a new car and sells me his 2006 Honda Accord EX.  I’m hoping to do so without breaking the bank.  Also along with this goal — keep the damn thing in good condition instead of trashing it constantly.  I’m not a teenager anymore.

5. Keep up physical appearance.  This includes but is not limited to: keeping a semi-regular gym schedule, attempt to lose some weight, build up some muscle, learn how to blow-dry hair straight, maintain skin care routine, wear makeup/nail polish every day, wear clothes that fit and flatter, etc.

6. Start meeting people — and hopefully dating.  Even though D and I have only been separated for six weeks and only positive we’re going to divorce for one, I feel as if I have been in mourning for our marriage for a lot longer.  And I have been — it was fifteen months ago that D told me he didn’t know if he wanted to be married anymore, and almost nine months since he told me he wanted to separate.  He last kissed me on my birthday, in September.  I haven’t felt married in quite awhile, and I’ve been in mourning for a very long time.  I’m ready to start putting myself out there — not dating, not yet, but at least meeting people and making friends.

7. Read more.  In 2011 I read 101 books, not too shabby!  That was the result of my setting a goal of 100 books, and consciously making the decision to read more new things, rather than just re-reading books I knew I loved.  Of course, that was when I wasn’t in grad school, and I had more time to devote to shamelessly slogging through fiction.  But I realized this year that I barely read a single new book from cover to cover that wasn’t assigned reading by my teachers, and that made me sad.  My goal this year is to get back into reading — a second time.  I’ve set myself a goal of 50 books, and I started Ken Follett’s World Without End last night (The Pillars of the Earth is one of my favorite books ever, so I’m  hoping I love the sequel just as much).

8. Climb Mt. Washington.  My friends Drea and Sam have volunteered to go with me, so I’m planning on setting the hike for some time in August or September.  They’re climbing Mt. Katahdin in Maine around Drea’s birthday (August 30th) so that’s right out.  I always dreamed of climbing it a third time, particularly after my accident in 2005, but never got around to it.  Getting it done before age 30 seems like a good goal.  This will be the year!

9. Write more — not just grad school papers!  I have so many ideas whirling about in my head, and I never seem to get them down on paper.  My friend Lyndsey is quite a writer, and has a level of dedication that I just can’t seem to master — she writes every. single. night, something I haven’t done since high school.  I want to write something, and I have to just…buckle down and do it.

10. Take more pictures.  I realized at the end of last year that there were almost no pictures taken of me this year.  It didn’t really make me sad, because it was such a terrible year that I really don’t want it commemorated.  But I don’t want to do that again.  Photographs and memories are all we have, and I want to start taking more.

Well, this looks like a good start.  It’s a long list of things that need doing, but I’ll get through it!

What about you?  Are you making any goals/resolutions for 2013?


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